Thursday, July 2, 2020

A Letter to Prospective Birth Parents

Sailing away on our first cruise with Daniel!

Dear Expectant Parents,

First, thank you for taking the time to read this letter. I assume that if you are here, you are considering placing your child for adoption; thank you for that. Our son came to us through the miracle of adoption - without his birth parents, we would still not be parents today. They are our heroes.

There's a lot of information about us and our family here on the blog, but just in case this is your first time visiting and you haven't read all of that yet, here's a quick introduction to us. We're the South Family! We live in Utah with our dog, Mel, in a close-knit neighborhood full of friends, parks, and walking paths. We are excited to grow our family again through adoption. Our family likes to ride bikes, watch movies, play games, have picnics, travel (especially on a cruise!) and just be together in general! Brian works from home as a magician and loves roller coasters. Rebekah is a stay at home mom who loves to read. Daniel is in first grade  and wants to be a police officer when he grows up! And Mel is a super sweet dog who loves to play and snuggle. 

Our family of three with judge after finalization.

Why Do We Want To Adopt Again?

When Daniel was born, he filled a massive hole in our hearts and family. We could finally be called "Mom and Dad"!! But we've always known that we didn't want him to grow up being an only child. Both Brian and I grew up with siblings and we are grateful for those relationships today, as well as for the experiences they gave us in childhood.

We want that for Daniel, too. And we know he will be a fantastic big brother.

We also feel like our family isn't complete. And adoption is our only option.

Rebekah and Mimi (Daniel's birth mother)

Our feelings about adoption

I'll be honest, when we first realized that adoption would be our only option to grow a family, I was a little nervous about it. I didn't love the idea of "sharing" motherhood with someone else. Brian was on board before I was, actually. But, as we did the adoption training and got to hear from a panel of birth parents, my feelings started to change. I better understood the courage and faith and love it took for those parents to choose adoption for their baby, and I began to understand the partnership that I could/would have with my child's birth parents.

Of course, once our son's birth parents chose us and we went through all the steps, trials, and ordeals with them, I have an even better understanding and appreciation for that partnership. In one of our blog entries, I told Daniel's adoption story, but I also had his birth mother tell her story. And I cried when I read her story, because even now she is still advocating for Daniel. She wants him to have a sibling and she will do whatever she can to help make that happen! That's amazing. I'm grateful every day that Daniel has a second mother looking out for him and loving him.

Daniel and his four parents, right after placement.

Nothing but love ♥

We obviously have an open relationship with Daniel's birth parents, and we love it. But we will absolutely respect your wishes as you decide what level of contact you are comfortable with after placement.

We’re hoping for a private adoption. We’re relying on our friends and family to help us get the word out!

Adoption is not an easy road, but it is definitely a road full of miracles. And I'm so thankful for those miracles!

Thank you again for taking the time to look through our profile. And please know that we look forward to meeting you and wish you the best in whatever path you pursue.

Much love,

Rebekah, Brian, and Daniel